Out From Under

From the “bigger is better” school of life comes The Big Penis Book. Why a book of outsized out-riggers? Because, we’re told, we all love the things. Drawn to them like moths to a flame. Just can’t help our wide-eyed selves.
…who can deny the allure of a big dick? Flaccid or erect, it is aesthetically [...]

There are rules, you know. There are always rules. You’re in a traditional marriage, there are rules: sexual exclusivity, respect, who takes the garbage out. You’re in a non-traditional one, there are still rules.
In fact, maybe there are more. At any rate, if you’re smart they’ll be more explicit. My friend and her husband are [...]

Awww, it’s a baaaaaaby! Isnt’ that sweeet?
In fact, it’s a cake! Really! Isn’t the craftmanship amazing? The woman who creates these things — she’s an artist. No doubt about it. Her medium may be cake, marzipan, chocolate and fondant icing, but who can deny the skill required, or the beauty of her creations?
You can totally [...]

Summertime! Time for cold drinks on a hot afternoon, sipped in civilized pleasure from your front porch as you scan the rolling expanse of your lovely green lawn. (If, like me, your front yard is nothing like that, you can nonetheless join me in the fantasy. Your porch — wide and sweeping, embellished with white [...]

Why do so many women fake orgasm?
Most of us have faked it, at least once. (At least, straight women have. I’m kind of working on the assumption that lesbians don’t, or with way reduced frequency… but if I’m wrong, feel free to correct me!) Once and a while, you’ll have your reasons, and no harm [...]

Sex is a feast for the senses.
Oh, she does like to state the obvious, doesn’t she? Bear with me, it’s going somewhere. That blithely trite observation stems from a (blithe and untrite) conversation I had with a friend (hi, Mike!) last week. In which we had touched upon the importance of humour in sex. Of [...]

The text says,
“You won’t be able to stop them (i.e. men), but you can protect yourself. He who created you knows what’s best for you!”
You know, if men are the problem and women the unwilling recipients of a lot of unwelcome attention — and goodness knows this isn’t a shocking notion even to we un-veiled [...]

My drive, your drive, his drive, hers. Men have higher drives than women. Are you surprised by this news? Or are you rolling your eyes at the obvious?
Although society’s view of sexuality may change, there appears to be an underlying biological constant. Studies of human cultures around the world have shown that most men think [...]

“Beauty is only skin deep.”
You ever hear that as a child, or as a mirror-obsessed teen?
“You’re beautiful, just the way you are.”
“It’s what’s inside that counts.”
All the things a supportive parent says to the kid whose world has fallen apart because of a zit. They also happen to be true, of course. I don’t [...]

Are you female? If so, your orgasm is not essential, you know.
Are those fighting words?
If I were hearing those words from my sex partner, they sure as hell would be.
But if they’re coming from a scientist, a female scientist, and she’s talking in evolutionary terms, not relational, not personal? (This post is inspired by her [...]