Out From Under

A friend was taking a psych. course a couple of years ago. He was the sole almost-forty-something in a class of 19- and 20-year-olds. The prof. casually mentioned that their grandparents probably quite enjoyed sex. The response, from the two hundred or so kids in that room?
“Eeeeew!”

You know, sex is everywhere in America. Sex sells [...]

Germans love to strip off. Really. They have nude areas in city parks, families skinny dip together in lakes, university students pose nude for calendars, they have nude air flights, even naked rock-climbing.
One does wonder if they take it to an extreme. Nekkid rock-climbing? Fresh air and sunlight on strong healthy bodies is all [...]

Ah, flirting. One of the best social games out there. It’s a multi-tiered exchange involving the mind as much as — no, more than — the body, with lots of mutual appreciation, suggestion, inneundo, a ton of sexual charge. While the possibility of sex is always in the air, the best flirts enjoy the process [...]

Tiny Asian woman advances upon larger Asian man, some tiny confection of satin and lace in her raised fist. Man backs away, trembling, shivering. “No! Anything but that!” He shrinks visibly, cowers in the presence of … her panties?
There’s a lot wrong in the country of Myanmar (also called Burma). The military regime is powerful [...]

A recent study has determined that women are too subtle in bed, and men too obtuse.
Stop the presses!! Really?!?!
Further, “poor male introspection” causes men to translate the things women say according to what they would mean if they said it.
No! Really??
(I could insert a paragraph here doing the standard “why is money wasted on studies [...]

Remember that study which found that the average duration of — no, the “best” — North American sex was 13 minutes? With the majority of women saying three minutes was “adequate”?
Did you, like me, find that just a tad odd? Women, who have been trying for decades to get men to SLOW DOWN, are now [...]

Remember that list of states which prohibit (or interfere with) the sale/ownership of vibrators? It’s one shorter, as of last Tuesday, February 12.
In 1979, it became illegal to buy, sell, advertise, or even give or lend sex toys in Texas. (This last gives me some pause. Just which of your stash would you be willing [...]

I believe we have to become less squeamish. I believe we need to enjoy our sexuality, not in some macho “lookit how sexy I am”, notches-on-the-bedpost way, but a simple, contented, strong and confident resting in our femalehood. I believe we should take satisfaction in our bodies, no matter what their size, shape and idiosyncracies [...]

There are sex shops in every city, of course, but while they’re steadily improving as sex becomes more mainstream*, most of them still earn their seedy, grotty, porn-ish reputation.
(*”sex becomes more mainstream”: aren’t I just the mistress of irony?)
Of those which rise above seediness, the majority have gone from tacky-sex to tacky-commercial. Big box sex [...]

Belgium has had gay marriage since 2003, the second country in the world after The Netherlands. Canada came third, in 2005.
In 2005, Belgium saw what is perhaps a first: a civil union of three. Belgian marriage cannot comprise three partners, but apparently a civil union can.
Although it comprises one man and two women, it’s not [...]